I was never into sports as a child. I didn't start working out till I was 30 years old!!
My sister and I are also 6 years apart so for the first years of my life I was an only child. As a result I have struggled with playing well with others. Don't get me wrong it is not that I dont like others I love people, and the older I get the more I appreciate my friends.
When I started on my fitness journey I did it the way I was used to - on my own. I had a personal trainer and me. No group exercise classes no gym buddies. When I got lonely or bored I added another session with my trainer. But as those first months went on that became a little expensive!! Then I started body building a sport that is notoriously solitary. Hours on the treadmill and hitting the weights by myself.
Once I found crossfit it was like a whole new world!! The community came first. I remember my first crossfit competition and being in awe that the person who finished last got the loudest cheers. The members of the gym where like family. They went out socially together they shared their lives. I truly believe that this community was the reason that I have stayed with Crossfit for the last 4 years.
So how do you create your tribe? How if you are just starting to fitness journey to you find people who have the same goals you do? Well happy you asked! Here are my tips in creating a tribe that make you better:
1- You have to put yourself out there: This is the hardest thing to do! It means steping out of your comfort zone and doing something scary. It means saying high to a total stranger in your spin class, showing up at a race and knowing no one. yes it could go horribly wrong but it quite possibly will go right and you will have a new friend!!
2- Dont take the judgement of those in your current tribe that do not support you: Another tough one. As humans we are programed to want to be likes and belong and it is really hard when people who we have know forever (sometimes even family) are not supportive of our goals. Or worse are judgemental about them! The best way to handle this judgement is to realize the IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU. More often than not their judgement is a reflection of their own inability to do what you are doing, and you know that saying "misery loves company"... Its best to love and release those people. It does not mean that you can never spend time with them again but before you do realize that you cannot change them and love them where they are.
3- Join an online community or training group: This one is my favorite. Yes technology seperates us from real relationships but it also is a good first step when you want to find like minded people. A good place to start? THe Brick House Bodies Fit Inside Out facebook community!!
Perfect place to meet other like minded women, stay motivated and get great inspiration for meals and just to get through the day!!
But there are dozens of groups on social media it just takes a little research to find the one thats right for you.
God never meant for us to live our lives alone. As His creation were were made for community. Building a tribe can be life changing but the change has to start with you.